In honour of Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week (4-10 May)
Pumping can be an incredibly valuable part of a feeding journey. For some parents, it offers flexibility. For others, it’s essential — whether due to prematurity, latch challenges, returning to work, or personal choice.
But while pumping can support feeding, it can also bring its own set of emotional and mental challenges. And it’s something we don’t always talk about enough.
The reality of pumping
Pumping isn’t just something you do — it’s something you have to plan for.
It often means:
- keeping track of time and routines
- thinking ahead about where and when you’ll express
- managing equipment, storage, and cleaning
- finding moments in the day to stop and pump
For many parents, this creates an ongoing mental load that can feel constant — especially in the early weeks or when trying to maintain supply.
The emotional side of expressing
Alongside the practical side, there can be a range of emotions tied to pumping:
- feeling pressure to keep up with supply
- comparing output from session to session
- frustration if things don’t go to plan
- guilt if pumping feels difficult or overwhelming
For some, pumping can also feel isolating — particularly if feeding at the breast isn’t possible or if it becomes a more solitary part of the day.
All of these feelings are valid.
You’re not alone
If pumping feels harder than you expected — emotionally as well as physically — you’re not alone.
Many parents experience ups and downs with expressing.
What you’re feeling is not a reflection of your ability or your commitment — it’s a reflection of how much you’re carrying.
Gentle ways to support your mental wellbeing
There’s no perfect way to approach pumping, but there are small things that can help make it feel more manageable:
• Create a comfortable space
Whether you’re at home or elsewhere, having a place where you feel relaxed and supported can make a difference — even small touches like a comfortable chair or something familiar nearby.
• Take the pressure off output
It’s easy to focus on how much milk you’re expressing, but output can vary for lots of reasons. Try to see pumping as part of a bigger picture, rather than something to measure or judge.
• Build a routine that works for you
Consistency can help, but flexibility matters too. Find a rhythm that fits your day, rather than trying to follow something that adds more stress.
• Stay connected
If pumping feels isolating, try to stay connected — whether that’s messaging a friend, joining a support group, or simply having something to listen to or watch during sessions.
• Ask for support
You don’t have to do this alone. Whether it’s practical help, reassurance, or feeding support from a professional, reaching out can make things feel lighter.
You’re doing enough
If you’re expressing milk for your baby, you’re showing up for them in a powerful way.
Even on the days it feels hard.
Even when it doesn’t go to plan.
You are doing enough — and you deserve support with that, too.
